I am a deep believer in the unknowability of other people.

I think people who try to run their marriages according to other people’s expectations are insane. It is quite hard enough to keep a marriage together till death do you part- which I think should be the aim, even if it can’t always succeed- without trying to do it to please other people. A good marriage is whatever suits the participants, and our marriage suited us fine.

I just think I’m fairly aggressive.

What did I get from Simon? An education – the thing my parents always wanted me to have.

I don’t want to give a cool appraisal of Jeremy Irons. I just want to boil him in oil.

I don't want to give a cool appraisal of Jeremy Irons. I just want to boil him in oil.

But perhaps this is what goes wrong with long marriages--you state your opinions, your likes and dislikes, at the beginning and then forget to mention when they change" (135).

I learned not to trust people; I learned not to believe what they say but to watch what they do; I learned to suspect that anyone and everyone is capable of 'living a lie'. I came to believe that other people - even when you think you know them well - are ultimately unknowable.

What did I get from Simon? An education - the thing my parents always wanted me to have.

I just think I'm fairly aggressive.